Often I do X (whatever X may be) so that I can get Z (Z is usually something I really, really want). Can you relate? It just makes sense right? I mean, every single other thing that I do is so that a particular outcome that I want can be achieved. But if I’m honest, when that formulaic way of thinking begins to infiltrate how and why I pray, I feel awful. I know that at best, my requests are fueled by a manipulative thought process that I typically use on everything (or everyone) else just so I can win.
And who doesn’t want to win?
But how do I win with prayer? Cause even the thought that I want to “win” seems messed up. But I think most followers of Jesus want to know how to pray and how to pray in a way that honors God.
I think one way that we mess up communication with God is by laboring over content rather that evaluating intent. Could I suggest to us that our intent is more important than any of the things we actually say or ask.
So some question I try to ask myself as I approach God…
- Am I just trying to use God?
- Have I first thanked God for who He is regardless of what I’m experiencing or want?
- Is how I’m praying consistent with how Jesus encouraged his followers to pray (for how Jesus encouraged his followers to pray check out Matthew 6:5-18)
How we approach God is so important. Do I recognize him as Creator of everything? Do I trust that he is able to do things that seem impossible to me? Do I really believe that I am loved by God and he wants to hear from me? Do I really understand that apart from Jesus, I’m incapable of no good thing? Even just reflecting on these questions for a brief few moments has a way of impacting me, of impacting my thought process, and straightening out my intent where it might be misled.
So, as you continue to pray and talk to God, don’t worry about saying everything just right or asking in a A+B=C fashion. Don’t just try to “win”. But put all your faith and trust in this person who listens, this person is able to accomplish anything, this person who wants greater things for us than we even want for ourselves and see how that guides your communication with God.
This week, as our thoughts revolve around the focus of Sexuality I can’t help but think or maybe just ask myself, “Where does our sexual activity start?” No one ever just has sex…regardless of what we think or what is portrayed. The sex always starts before the sex.
As we focus on Life Skills, we’re usually giving attention to the choices we make, our decisions, our plans, our course of life. And many of us want to know how to get to where we want to be in life so we focus all of our attention on our destination, you know, the place where we want to be. But rarely do we give attention to the process, the journey, the course that leads us to our final destination. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” But if we’re not careful, we easily overlook the heart. We forget that its condition greatly affects our course and subsequently, our destination…the place we want to be.
Tomorrow night as we launch into our next cycle of Saturate Eight, we’ll be talking a lot about the “heart.” As we approach each of our 8 focuses, we’ll take time to pray a prayer that David prayed in Psalms 139: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the paths of everlasting life.”