When I was 18, everything looked clear. Thought my vision (both literally and figuratively) was 20/20. And then something happened…
I went off to college. And when I arrived at college I learned that my vision (both literally and figuratively) wasn’t as good as I thought it was.
I remember sitting in the back of the classroom that whole first week. My only goal that week: don’t do something that will embarrass yourself and tag you as a social reject for your entire freshman year. And so I sat at the back of the class quietly…squinting because I couldn’t see the board. I couldn’t see. Everything looked kinda hazy. That’s the first time I realized that I needed glasses…literally. So I got some specs.
But as I continued my freshman year and as I met people from all across the country, as I had my worldview challenged, as I started making decisions about my own career and life path I remember thinking that figuratively my vision was still blurry. I couldn’t see where I was really heading. Essentially, I was “squinting” through life. And thankfully, I was lucky enough to meet John Shields.
John helped me a ton. He talked with me. He listened. He challenged me and my perspectives. He helped me think through the gravity of some of my choices. John helped me see a lot clearer during a critical part of my life. I look back and I’m thankful that John helped take a few good steps during that time. I’m grateful that John helped me see.
And that’s what a mentor does. A mentor removes some of the haze from the vision of our lives. They don’t fix everything, but they’re with us, they’re for us. They help make our next footstep a little more secure.
Mentoring is something that we’ve begun to offer after each cycle of Saturate Eight and I’m stoked about the growth that it’s producing in the lives of our 20somethings. Next Tuesday, March 6th, we begin a new round. So would you please pray for the 20somethings who will be connecting with a mentor this round. Pray that some of the haze will be removed…at least enough to take the next step.
Often I do X (whatever X may be) so that I can get Z (Z is usually something I really, really want). Can you relate? It just makes sense right? I mean, every single other thing that I do is so that a particular outcome that I want can be achieved. But if I’m honest, when that formulaic way of thinking begins to infiltrate how and why I pray, I feel awful. I know that at best, my requests are fueled by a manipulative thought process that I typically use on everything (or everyone) else just so I can win.
This week, as our thoughts revolve around the focus of Sexuality I can’t help but think or maybe just ask myself, “Where does our sexual activity start?” No one ever just has sex…regardless of what we think or what is portrayed. The sex always starts before the sex.
As we focus on Life Skills, we’re usually giving attention to the choices we make, our decisions, our plans, our course of life. And many of us want to know how to get to where we want to be in life so we focus all of our attention on our destination, you know, the place where we want to be. But rarely do we give attention to the process, the journey, the course that leads us to our final destination. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” But if we’re not careful, we easily overlook the heart. We forget that its condition greatly affects our course and subsequently, our destination…the place we want to be.
Tomorrow night as we launch into our next cycle of Saturate Eight, we’ll be talking a lot about the “heart.” As we approach each of our 8 focuses, we’ll take time to pray a prayer that David prayed in Psalms 139: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the paths of everlasting life.”